January 01, 2007

Poking My Head Back Out

I suppose it’s time for me to come back out of my cave.

I’m fine – I haven’t been sad or depressed or anything. It’s just that we’ve had a lot of non-infertility stuff going on what with moving, trying to sell two houses and getting adjusted to a new boss, so the infertility stuff (and blogging and pretty much anything else not house-related) has kind of been pushed to the background for a couple months. Actually, it’s been kind of nice not to focus so much on infertility – I was even beginning to remember what it is like to have a “normal” life!

But, of course, “normal” only lasts for so long, and in my case it tends not to be long at all.

We did our second FET in December. Doc gave us two choices after FET #1 failed: Do another FET, this time transferring back three embryos rather than two; or leave our eight frozens alone for now and do another fresh cycle with less stims (not that I was on much to begin with) to see if that could improve egg quality.

I didn’t see myself being up for another fresh cycle until March or April, so we opted for the FET. To be honest, I wasn’t really in the mood to do that, either. I looked at it mainly as one more thing we had to do so we could cross it off our list, and at one point I almost opted not to go forward with the cycle and wait until after the beginning of the year.

But finally I found a little better place, and we continued forward. Then the betas came back:

Dec. 22, 7dp5dt: 48
Dec. 26, 11dp5dt: 181

So, I’m officially – well, you know. I still have a difficult time saying the word. There are some people who know we were cycling. I’ve told them I’m “incubating.” It’s more scientific, less emotion-laden. It helps me be detached.

I’m 5w1d today. I had some mild pain/cramping/aching from about 3w6d to 4w4d. That made me nervous. Then it went away. That, too, made me nervous. It came back a little bit yesterday. That made me happy, then nervous.

I’ve also had nausea and a heightened sense of smell on and off, but that doesn’t seem to be happening consistently either. I’m happy when I feel it, but nervous when I don’t. On the plus side, so far there hasn’t been a speck of spotting and I’ve been going to the bathroom pretty much every two hours very consistently.

Our first ultrasound isn’t scheduled until Jan. 11, which would be 6w4d. It will be with my ob/gyn, since we cycled out of state. I’m debating whether to call and see if I can get it moved up to this week. What do you think?

People keep saying, "Oh, aren't you so excited?!" Honestly, no, I'm not. Blissful ignorance is not an option anymore in our world. I'm scared. I'm trying to have faith. I'm taking it one day at a time, because there are no guarantees and things could change at any moment. I don't know that I will truly be able to be excited until I am holding a baby in my arms.

Here's hoping that 2007 is a year that brings all of us great joy...


Thalia said...

Rebecca I'm delighted for you and scared for you. Hoping very hard that this great start for 2007 pans out for just the right length of time!

Meg said...

Rebecca - Quiet congratulations from me. And lovely to hear how you're going, too. :)

Anonymous said...

Rebecca, I'll be praying for your little peanut! May this year be filled w/ joy and laughter.

All the best,

Watson said...

Hi Rebecca,

What wonderful and surprising news -- CONGRATULATIONS!

I wish you all the best for a happy and healthy...you know :-)

the waiting line said...

We will be terribly EXCITED for you!! (And, of course, I undertand your guarded approach.)

Best of luck on your upcoming ultrasound. Sorry it's another week away. I was able to get an early ultrasound (at week 5) to confirm that there was no ectopic. Give it a shot if you can't wait - I know I couldn't!

Lucy said...

Wow, congrats. I hope it continues to go well. I really hope for the best for you.

Kirsten said...

That is wonderful news! From what I can tell, we are about 2 days apart in our "incubation" : ) I had my transfer (5 day) on the 14th. I still don't have my official due date, I just know I'm about 5.5 weeks. I am waiting on my 2nd beta as I type. I go for my first u/s on the 9th to see what we've got in there.
I will keep you in my prayers; have faith that this IS it. But, trust me, I totally understand the fear.

twirl said...

Glad to hear from you. Congratulations and good luck.

Motel Manager said...

Congats!! I hope it sticks - let us know how your u/s goes on 1/11!

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Nico said...

Holy sh1t! What a nice turn of events. I don't know what you decided about the u/s, but Jan 11 is just around the corner. I am hoping SO hard that this little bean sticks around!

Debbi said...

Rebecca: Congratulations for making it over this first of so many hurdles. I can totally understand the feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's such a surreal way to live but for so many of us it's our reality.

Hang in there -- hope you get to enjoy a few moments at a time.